"The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate. That is to say, when an individual remains undivided and does not become conscious of his inner contradictions, the world must perforce act out the conflict and be torn into opposite halves." Carl Jung.
Change requires an understanding that things can be different, the desire for it to be so, and a level of commitment. Even driving a car you need to know where you are coming from, and you require a plan of direction, the ability to look forward to be prepared for obstacles, the willingness to exert the effort to turn the wheel, as well as a source of power or you ain't going anywhere. Life is just the same.
Sometimes change is motivated by a sense of adventure - "what if.." and that can be a source of fun and learning, but very often change is prompted by a desire for things to just be different to how they are now. And this is often related to a source of 'pain', hurt or discomfort. Unfortunately, we also have a tendency to fear the change, a worry of 'jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire'. The important thing to remember is that remaining where we are is not painless either. Staying in a situation of feeling anger, depression, sadness, anxiety, panic and fear uses a lot of energy and will cost a lot in health and our overall ability to function.
"The man who looks for security, even in the mind, is like a man who would chop off his limbs in order to have artificial ones which will give him no pain or trouble." Henry Miller.
Human beings seem to generally be programmed to search out the easiest road - not surprising as we have a huge brain for problem solving and limited physical strength (compared to other mammals anyway) and this will often stand us in good stead - cue agriculture and the wheel. And I am as quick as anyone to reach for medication to dull a physical pain, however whatever type of pain we are dealing with it is vital that we search out the cause. Only then will we be able to proceed with the correct form of healing. Is that foot sore because it is broken or because there is a piece of glass in it? Is the depression caused by repressed anger or a nutritional mineral deficiency? How many people diagnosed with 'Depression' are sent for a blood test to check mineral levels? Or thyroid function? The treatment required is completely different. If you are suffering 'pain' it is necessary to find the 'cause' . When we find 'where we are' we will then be able to determine 'where we want to be'.
If we so choose.
Being an adult actually requires the adoption of a sense of responsibility ie; "ability to respond". This means that we must be willing to 'know ourselves' so that we can respond to our experience of the universe. To effect change in our lives we need to decide where we want to go or at least in which direction we wish to travel, therefore we need to know where and who we are.
"A changed thought system can reverse cause-and-effect as we have known it. For most of us, this is a very difficult concept to accept, because of our resistance to relinquishing the predictability of our past belief system and to assuming responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and reactions. "Love Is Letting Go Of Fear" by Gerald G. Jampolsky.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me." Author Unknown.
I am very grateful to have found the life-healing philosophies of Louise Hay over 20 years ago. Learning more about who I was, and what I really wanted from life, set me on a wonderful life path and I am blessed to be able to share these philosophies with others today. I would love to share these with you too. See you at a class soon 😊