"If nothing ever changed there would be no butterflies." Author Unknown
"The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate. That is to say, when an individual remains undivided and does not become conscious of his inner contradictions, the world must perforce act out the conflict and be torn into opposite halves." Carl Jung.
Change requires an understanding that things can be different, the desire for it to be so, and a level of commitment. Even the simple act of driving a car requires you to know where you are coming from, and you then require a plan of direction, the ability to look forward to be prepared for obstacles, the willingness to exert the effort to turn the wheel, and a source of power or you just won't be going anywhere. Life is just the same.
Sometimes change is motivated by a sense of adventure - "what if.." and that can be a source of fun and knowledge, but most often change is prompted by a desire for things to just be different to how they are now. This is often related to a source of 'pain', hurt or discomfort. Unfortunately we also have a tendency to fear the change, a worry of 'jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire'. The important thing to remember is that remaining where we are is not painless either. Staying in the situation of feeling anger, depression, sadness, anxiety, panic and fear uses a lot of energy and will affect our health and our ongoing ability to function.
Human beings seem to generally be programmed to search out the easiest road - not surprising as we have a huge brain for problem solving and limited physical strength (compared to other mammals anyway) and this will often stand us in good stead - cue agriculture and the wheel. And I am as quick as anyone to reach for the Panadol to dull a physical pain, however whatever type of pain we are dealing with it is vital that we search out the true cause. Only then will we be able to proceed with the correct form of healing. Is that foot sore because it is broken or because there is a piece of glass in it? Is the depression caused by repressed anger or a nutritional mineral deficiency? How many people diagnosed with 'depression' are sent for a blood test to check mineral levels? Or thyroid function? The treatment required is completely different. If you are suffering 'pain' it is necessary to find the 'cause' . When we find 'where we are' we will then be able to determine 'where we want to be' and how to get there.
If we so choose.
Being an adult requires the adoption of a sense of responsibility ie; "ability to respond". This means that we must be willing to 'know ourselves' so that we can respond to our experience of the universe. To effect change in our lives we need to decide where we want to go or at least in which direction we wish to travel, therefore we need to know where and who we are. Here is inspiration from the sages:
"Let those who seek, continue seeking until they find. When they find, they will become troubled. When they become troubled they will be astonished...
Recognise what is in your sight, and that which is hidden from you will become plain to you."
'The Gospel of Thomas'
"A changed thought system can reverse cause-and-effect as we have known it. For most of us, this is a very difficult concept to accept, because of our resistance to relinquishing the predictability of our past belief system and to assuming responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and reactions.
"Love Is Letting Go Of Fear" by Gerald G. Jampolsky.
The Force is universal, which means that it is in everything. It is also endless: It stretches out not only to an eternity behind you, but infinitely into the future. The Force is also all-knowing, because being in all things, it knows from its own experience. Your life's goal is to expand the Force within you so that you can perceive beyond what you are now. ... You might like to start the day with a personal affirmation, saying: "I am the Force within. What I am is eternal, immortal, universal and infinite. What I am has beauty and strength. This is my day, and all that I pull to me is for my highest evolution and growth."
Stuart Wilde "The Force"
"God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me." Author Unknown
Look out for PART TWO, the next blog, (LIKE this page to keep in touch) where I will share my own personal journey through writing my book, stress, health analysis, healing and more. I thought I was writing my book for you - what a learning curve I was embarking on ........