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"If nothing ever changed there would be no butterflies."     Author Unknown

3/7/2019

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This month as the seasons change and we finally feel autumn in the air, the theme of the Newsletter is 'Change'.  There is a new ‘Teen emPOWERment' workshop coming soon, and the classes are booking now for April and May including the next ‘Heal Your Life – Releasing the Past  2-day intensive workshop for adults. Places are filling fast so please call for enquires (without obligation).

"The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate. That is to say, when an individual remains undivided and does not become conscious of his inner contradictions, the world must perforce act out the conflict and be torn into opposite halves."     Carl Jung. 

  Change requires an understanding that things can be different, the desire for it to be so, and a level of commitment. Even driving a car you need to know where you are coming from, and you require a plan of direction, the ability to look forward to be prepared for obstacles,  the willingness to exert the effort to turn the wheel, as well as a source of power or you ain't going anywhere. Life is just the same.
    Sometimes change is motivated by a sense of adventure - "what if.." and that can be a source of fun and learning, but very often change is prompted by a desire for things to just be different to how they are now.  And this is often related to a source of 'pain', hurt or discomfort. Unfortunately, we also have a tendency to fear the change, a worry of 'jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire'. The important thing to remember is that remaining where we are is not painless either. Staying in a situation of feeling anger, depression, sadness, anxiety, panic and fear uses a lot of energy and will cost a lot in health and our overall ability to function.

"The man who looks for security, even in the mind, is like a man who would chop off his limbs in order to have artificial ones which will give him no pain or trouble."     Henry Miller.

    Human beings seem to generally be programmed to search out the easiest road -  not surprising as we have a huge brain for problem solving and limited physical strength (compared to other mammals anyway) and this will often stand us in good stead - cue agriculture and the wheel.  And I am as quick as anyone to reach for medication to dull a physical pain, however whatever type of pain we are dealing with it is vital that we search out the cause. Only then will we be able to proceed with the correct form of healing. Is that foot sore because it is broken or because there is a piece of glass in it? Is the depression caused by repressed anger or a nutritional mineral deficiency? How many people diagnosed with 'Depression' are sent for a blood test to check mineral levels? Or thyroid function? The treatment required is completely different. If you are suffering 'pain' it is necessary to find the 'cause' . When we find 'where we are' we will then be able to determine 'where we want to be'.
If we so choose.

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    Being an adult actually requires the adoption of a sense of responsibility ie; "ability to respond". This means that we must be willing to 'know ourselves' so that we can respond to our experience of the universe. To effect change in our lives we need to decide where we want to go or at least in which direction we wish to travel, therefore we need to know where and who we are.

"A changed thought system can reverse cause-and-effect as we have known it. For most of us, this is a very difficult concept to accept, because of our resistance to relinquishing the predictability of our past belief system and to assuming responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and reactions.       "Love Is Letting Go Of Fear"  by Gerald G. Jampolsky.

 "God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me."     Author Unknown.


          I am very grateful to have found the life-healing philosophies of Louise Hay over 20 years ago. Learning more about who I was, and what I really wanted from life, set me on a wonderful life path and I am blessed to be able to share these philosophies with others today. I would love to share these with you too. See you at a class soon 😊 
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Master the day...

7/26/2017

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​Sometimes change is motivated by a sense of adventure - "what if.." and that can be a source of fun and knowledge, but most often change is prompted by a desire for things to just be different to how they are now.  And this is often related to a source of 'pain', hurt or discomfort. Unfortunately we also have a tendency to fear the change, a worry of 'jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire'. The important thing to remember is that remaining where we are is not painless either. Staying in a situation of feeling anger, depression, sadness, anxiety, panic and fear uses a lot of energy and will cost a lot in health and our ability to function.

"The man who looks for security, even in the mind, is like a man who would chop off his limbs in order to have artificial ones which will give him no pain or trouble."     Henry Miller.

    Human beings seem to generally be programmed to search out the easiest road -  not surprising as we have a huge brain for problem solving and limited physical strength (compared to other mammals anyway) and this will often stand us in good stead - cue agriculture and the wheel.  And I am as quick as anyone to reach for the Panadol to dull a physical pain however whatever type of pain we are dealing with it is vital that we search out the cause. Only then will we be able to proceed with the correct form of healing. Is that foot sore because it is broken or because there is a piece of glass in it? Is the depression caused by repressed anger or a nutritional mineral deficiency? How many people diagnosed with 'Depression' are sent for a blood test to check mineral levels? Or thyroid function? The treatment required is completely different. If you are suffering 'pain' it is necessary to find the 'cause' . When we find 'where we are' we will then be able to determine 'where we want to be'. If we so choose.

    Being an adult requires adopting a sense of responsibility ie; "ability to respond". This means that we must be willing to 'know ourselves' so that we can respond to our experience of the universe. To effect change in our lives we need to decide where we want to go or at least in which direction we wish to travel, therefore we need to know where and who we are.

"A changed thought system can reverse cause-and-effect as we have known it. For most of us, this is a very difficult concept to accept, because of our resistance to relinquishing the predictability of our past belief system and to assuming responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and reactions.
"Love Is Letting Go Of Fear"  by Gerald G. Jampolsky.

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Parenting 101

6/29/2017

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How the heck do you know what you're supposed to be doing, and 'what's right', and 'how do I decide'.... It's such a hard job and, well, they don't come with a manual do they? And if you do 'get it right' on a particular day or with a particular child, it tends not to work the next.
So how do you know what is the right thing to do?
Here's your PARENTING 101 GUIDE:
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There are actually only three things a parent really needs to do:

1  -  PROTECT the babies
           Doesn't matter if you're a bird, a wolf or a human; this is number one. Major stuff-ups in this area tend to end up on the front page of the newspaper but there are challenges here for all of us as I'll explain soon...

2  -  PROVIDE THE NECESSARIES
           You'll note that this is 'the necessaries'.... not everything the kids want. Roof, warmth, clothing, food, care, is about it in this category.

3  -  TEACH the babies how to be an adult. Mother bird kicks the babies out of the nest (before they can actually fly btw), mother wolf brings home a maimed rabbit for the cubs to 'catch', humans traditionally involved the children in all aspects of their daily life, farming, gathering, hunting, cooking, nursing the sick etc. So your job as a 21stC human parent is to teach your kids how to be self-sufficient in life and be able to earn a living. To do this they need certain skills.

Nigel Latta  https://www.facebook.com/nigellatta/   says his philosophy is "teaching them how to survive the zombie apocalypse" which I think just about sums it up really. To do this they need to be responsible, humble (understanding they are part of the world, not the centre of it), compassionate, resourceful and resilient, and have determination (understanding that anything of value always takes work, sacrifice and focus).

You may now see that some of the requirements of your Job #1 and your Job #3 are contradictory, and this is one of the most difficult areas of parenting. How far do you 'Protect' and how much risk do you allow in your job of 'Teach'? This is of course the eternal parental dilemma but it is very clear that parents in the 21stC are actually very often 'over-protecting' causing problems in the 'Teach' area. As a child grows from baby to early teens it is necessary for the parenting to transition from '100% Protect' to 'Mainly Teach'. Somewhere in there you will need to stop reminding them about their lunchbox and homework, doing their project for them, and let them suffer the consequences of their actions. And generally the sooner the better.

Take one simple example - getting to school. In the 1970's around 85% of children walked (or biked) to school. This taught kids many, many LIFE SKILLS -  to regulate their time in the morning, be organised, learning about friendships in an unstructured environment, responsibility for clothing, responsibility in general, weather evaluation, exploring their surroundings, learning about bullies, saviours, financial transactions (which shop had the best deal on Toffee Milks), and the creepy guy who lived at #62. Today, apparently, only about 12% of children walk to school without an adult. Besides the headache of school parking this is not doing our kids any good. Yes there are risks but many of these can be mitigated and the benefits are huge.

I've heard many parents say they don't have time to let the kids walk because of the other 'learning activities' they need to get to .... I'll just park that there for you to ponder.

So, yes, this parenting job is hard. But if you are struggling on any given day it might be helpful to come back to the core of what you are doing here - Protect, Provide, Teach. I hope this brings some clarity to your decision-making process.

I highly recommend 'The Modern Family Survival Guide' by Nigel Latta, available form all good bookstores and The Parenting Place.com , another great NZ resource.
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CORLIGHT Programmes provides a seminar for parents and educators on understanding children's emotions. Seminars can be held for your group or school and can be structured as a fundraiser; http://www.corlight.co.nz/workshops.html
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Identifying the true cause of what was holding me back transformed my life. You can transform yours TOO!

4/23/2017

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I thought this month I would share the story of my journey.
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A while ago I received one of the highest awards available in New Zealand for my textile art. I don't share this to brag (although I am proud - this particular piece took two years and over a thousand hours to complete) but to share my story because twenty years ago this would have been completely inconceivable. I was 'art shy', not really working in any artistic medium and with not an ounce of belief in any ability. And it was true - I could not draw. This was not just my perception, ask anyone! Stick figures to the max, and even they had to be labelled or they might have been confused with a tree.
                One ordinary day my life was to change dramatically and instantly. I heard Louise Hay speak about the mind/body connection and how our past thoughts and emotional patterns can create 'blockages' in our current state. I was intrigued. I had already begun a personal development program of managing stress and getting balance into my life but I knew there was a big 'something' missing and I had no idea what. Like many of us I believed I would be 'happy'  "when". You know how it is -"I'll be truly happy when I...; when they...; when he.... - Feel free to fill in your own blanks. Louise spoke about how it was necessary to identify the thought patterns and underlying beliefs that were holding us back, blocking our journey; and only then would we be free to create the full being that we can be. And there is no prescription or rule that we have to be a certain way. It's not as regimented as simply receiving a 'manual' or guide to our life. What we ultimately receive when we learn to uncover and remove the blocks is a greater connection to our inner power, to our instinct, (Louise calls it our 'inner ding') that when we follow will lead us to our best life.
                My life changed instantly that day. As I listened to her speak I identified a major emotional trigger that had been causing pain and limitation for thirty-five years. I cried for hours, released the pain, and resolved to do what I needed to continue the healing process. I began working with the 'Heal Your Life®' philosophies, read books, attended workshops and could slowly feel the peace and freedom sneaking into my life as I developed new understandings and new thought patterns. A year later I attended a painting workshop - "just for fun" - and a year after that I had created my first quilt. My first art quilt came a couple of months later (it's pretty tragic by the way!) but within three years I had a couple of pieces accepted into a national exhibition. In 2007 I won my first national and international awards and I am now working on a series of portraiture, yes, actually real people, several pieces of which have also received  national and international awards. 
                Alongside this artistic journey, as well as training as a counsellor I have trained and become licensed to lead the life-changing 'Heal Your Life, Achieve Your Dreams®' workshops myself. Again, a few years ago I never would have believed this would be possible. Life is not without hurdles and ups and downs but I love all of what I do and I hope I can play a part in you achieving your own dreams in the future - even if you have no idea at the moment of what they might be!

                Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more, or click through on the link below to the Heal Your Life workshop info.  The next workshop is 'Manifest Your Best Life - Heal Your Life, Achieve Your Dreams®' in June. Places are strictly limited so please contact Camilla to register your interest now.
Personal Programmes are also available to help bring YOU closer to your dreams. 
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Breathing.....  You think you got this ???

11/8/2016

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Right where you are now, simply place one hand on the top of your chest and one hand on your tummy.
Now close your eyes and take a really deep breath, as deep as you can; then breathe out gently...... and do two more.......
How much did your 'top hand' move?
How much did your 'bottom hand' move?

Try another one and watch/feel your shoulders.... Are they moving up and tensing? Thought so....

Very often when I ask people to "take a deep breath" I actually see instead a 'big, HIGH, breath'. Little air is actually going down deep to fill the bottom of the lungs. The reason this matters is that a 'shallow' breath' is one of the first triggers of the 'anxiety/fear/stress' response so if you are habitually shallow breathing you're telling your system there might be something 'scare-worthy', with every breath.

The good news is that you CAN retrain yourself and this will lessen your anxiety levels and your stress response markedly.

Place both hands on your tummy at waist level. Now CONCENTRATE! Breath in to the area of your hands.....feel the tummy puffing out like a balloon as the lungs fill with air. You might not be able to do it straight away but move your hands around a bit and keep trying.

You don't have to worry about filling the top of the lungs, that'll just happen naturally. Instead, concentrate on relaxing the top of your torso, shoulders in particular, and just get the air going down deep.
With a bit of practise you WILL be able to accomplish this, then it's just a matter of making the practise a priority so a correct breath becomes natural for you. Let me know if you have any questions; enjoy!

Oh - one last thing - don't overdo too many deep breaths at once. The extra oxygen you're taking in could make you a bit dizzy until you get used to it so just take it easy and use your common sense !

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'Understanding Our Inner Self - Change, Healing, Growth' 

8/30/2016

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This month as  we move into Spring the theme of the Newsletter is 'Our Inner Self and Change'.  Life is forever changing and when we understand who/what/why we are, change becomes an interesting and exciting journey for us.

"If nothing ever changed there would be no butterflies."     Author Unknown   
                                                
"The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate. That is to say, when an individual remains undivided and does not become conscious of his inner contradictions, the world must perforce act out the conflict and be torn into opposite halves."     Carl Jung. 

Change requires an understanding that things can be different, the desire for it to be so, and a level of commitment. Even the simple act of driving a car requires you to know where you are coming from, and you then require a plan of direction, the ability to look forward to be prepared for obstacles,  the willingness to exert the effort to turn the wheel, and a source of power or you just won't be going anywhere. Life is just the same.

Sometimes change is motivated by a sense of adventure - "what if.." and that can be a source of fun and knowledge, but most often change is prompted by a desire for things to just be different to how they are now.  This is often related to a source of 'pain', hurt or discomfort. Unfortunately we also have a tendency to fear the change, a worry of 'jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire'. The important thing to remember is that remaining where we are is not painless either. Staying in the situation of feeling anger, depression, sadness, anxiety, panic and fear uses a lot of energy and will affect our health and our ongoing ability to function.

Human beings seem to generally be programmed to search out the easiest road -  not surprising as we have a huge brain for problem solving and limited physical strength (compared to other mammals anyway) and this will often stand us in good stead - cue agriculture and the wheel.  And I am as quick as anyone to reach for the Panadol to dull a physical pain, however whatever type of pain we are dealing with it is vital that we search out the true cause. Only then will we be able to proceed with the correct form of healing. Is that foot sore because it is broken or because there is a piece of glass in it? Is the depression caused by repressed anger or a nutritional mineral deficiency? How many people diagnosed with 'depression' are sent for a blood test to check mineral levels? Or thyroid function? The treatment required is completely different. If you are suffering 'pain' it is necessary to find the 'cause' . When we find 'where we are' we will then be able to determine 'where we want to be' and how to get there.

If we so choose.

Being an adult requires the adoption of a sense of responsibility ie; "ability to respond". This means that we must be willing to 'know ourselves' so that we can respond to our experience of the universe. To effect change in our lives we need to decide where we want to go or at least in which direction we wish to travel, therefore we need to know where and who we are. Here is inspiration from the sages:

"Let those who seek, continue seeking until they find. When they find, they will become troubled. When they become troubled they will be astonished... 
Recognise what is in your sight, and that which is hidden from you will become plain to you."

'The Gospel of Thomas' 

"A changed thought system can reverse cause-and-effect as we have known it. For most of us, this is a very difficult concept to accept, because of our resistance to relinquishing the predictability of our past belief system and to assuming responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and reactions.
"Love Is Letting Go Of Fear"  by Gerald G. Jampolsky.

The Force is universal, which means that it is in everything. It is also endless: It stretches out not only to an eternity behind you, but infinitely into the future. The Force is also all-knowing, because being in all things, it knows from its own experience. Your life's goal is to expand the Force within you so that you can perceive beyond what you are now.  ...  You might like to start the day with a personal affirmation, saying: "I am the Force within. What I am is eternal, immortal, universal and infinite. What I am has beauty and strength. This is my day, and all that I pull to me is for my highest evolution and growth."
Stuart Wilde    "The Force"

 "God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me."     Author Unknown

​Look out for PART TWO, the next blog, (LIKE this page to keep in touch)  where I will share my own personal journey through writing my book, stress, health analysis, healing and more. I thought I was writing my book for you - what a learning curve I was embarking on  ........
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    Camilla Watson

    A life-coach & counsellor with 20yrs experience specialising in stress, anxiety, depression, relationships, and mind body therapies.

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